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WARNING: THIS SCAM VICTIM/SURVIVOR’S STORY MAY BE TRIGGERING TO SOME PEOPLE. DISCRETION IS ADVISED.
ADVERTENCIA: LA HISTORIA DE ESTA VÍCTIMA/SOBREVIVIENTE DE ESTAFA PUEDE SER INSENSIBLE PARA ALGUNAS PERSONAS. SE RECOMIENDA DISCRECIÓN.
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My Scam Victim Story
I’m a 55-year-old former civil servant living in Guildford, England, and I never imagined I’d lose £50,000 to a scam that started with a promising email about a dream holiday. I’ve always been prudent, budgeting carefully and teaching my kids to spot dodgy calls or texts. But in 2022, I fell for an impersonation scam that wiped out my savings and left me sobbing every day for months. The scammer was a chameleon, posing as a trusted travel agent, blending into my life with professional charm only to vanish with my money. Writing this feels like ripping off a bandage, but I’m sharing my story to warn others across the UK, hoping you can avoid the anguish I endured. The loss has shaken me, but by understanding how I was deceived, I’m piecing my confidence back together, determined to help you stay safe.
It began on a rainy afternoon in Guildford, when I was browsing my inbox, dreaming of a getaway to recharge after a tough year. An email caught my eye, supposedly from Horizon Travel, a company I’d used years ago for a family trip to Cornwall. The subject line read, Exclusive Offer: Luxury Mediterranean Cruise for You, and the email was polished, with the company’s logo, vibrant photos of a cruise ship, and a personalized greeting using my name. We’re delighted to offer you a discounted 10-day cruise for only £2,500, it said, urging me to call a number to secure my spot. The timing felt perfect—I’d been craving a break—so I dialed, excited but cautious.
A woman named Claire answered, her voice warm and professional. She confirmed the offer, describing a cruise with stops in Greece and Italy, complete with gourmet dining and spa access. This is a limited deal, but we’ve reserved a cabin for you, she said, asking about my travel preferences to tailor the trip. She sent a follow-up email with a detailed itinerary and booking form, all branded with Horizon Travel’s logo. Everything looked legitimate, and Claire’s attentiveness put me at ease. I agreed to pay a £2,500 deposit via bank transfer, thinking it was a steal for such a luxurious holiday.
That was the start of a spiral I didn’t see coming. A week later, Claire called, saying there was an issue with the booking system. We need an additional £3,000 to confirm your cabin due to a glitch, she explained, apologizing profusely. She sent an updated invoice, and I transferred the money, trusting her sincerity. Over the next few months, the requests kept coming—£5,000 for port fees, £7,000 for a “tax adjustment,” then £10,000 for an upgraded suite due to “overbooking.” Each time, Claire provided documents—contracts, receipts, even a cruise line confirmation—that seemed authentic. This ensures your dream holiday is perfect, she assured me, and I believed her, dipping into my savings to keep the trip alive.
The amounts grew larger. Claire claimed a “customs issue” required £15,000 to release the ship’s itinerary, promising it was the final payment. You’re so close to sailing, don’t let this stop you, she urged. I took out a loan, telling myself it was worth it for a once-in-a-lifetime experience. By mid-2022, I’d sent £50,000, pulling from my retirement fund and even borrowing from my pension. Claire kept me hooked with updates—photos of the ship, a personalized boarding pass—making it feel real. I pictured myself on the deck, sipping wine under the stars, and clung to that vision, ignoring the financial strain.
Doubts started to surface, but Claire was a pro at dispelling them. When I questioned the delays, she’d call, her tone soothing. You’re my priority, I’ll sort this out, she’d say, promising a refund if the trip fell through. She sent a contract showing a £100,000 cruise package, claiming my payments were secure. But the sailing date kept shifting, and excuses piled up—weather issues, port strikes. I finally demanded proof the trip was real, asking for a live call with the cruise line. Her response was curt: You’ll regret doubting me. Then, silence. Her number was disconnected, the email address bounced back, and the Horizon Travel website I’d visited was gone.
I sat in my Guildford flat, staring at my bank statements, my hands trembling. I’d sent £50,000 over six months, money meant for my retirement, my grandkids’ future, my security. The truth hit like a sledgehammer: Claire wasn’t a travel agent. She was likely a scammer, possibly part of a network, who’d preyed on my longing for adventure. I later found the cruise photos were stolen from a real company’s site, the documents forged with fake logos. The emails, the calls, the promises—all a meticulously crafted lie. I felt like I’d been living in a fantasy, only to crash into a brutal reality.
The shame was suffocating. I couldn’t bear to tell my kids, who’d always seen me as the careful one. I’d missed red flags—the escalating fees, the vague excuses, the too-smooth assurances—because I wanted the holiday to be real. I kept it secret for weeks, crying every day, replaying every interaction. The betrayal wasn’t just financial; it was personal, like losing a friend who never existed. I stopped trusting emails, calls, even local businesses, fearing another deception. My confidence, built over years of steady work, shattered, and I doubted my ability to spot truth from lies, haunted by my own gullibility.
Eventually, I confided in my daughter, who held my hand and urged me to forgive myself. I found an online support group, reading stories from others across the UK who’d been duped by impersonation scams. I thought I was the only fool, but I wasn’t, I realized, finding solace in shared pain. The scammer’s tactics—mimicking trusted brands, building rapport, exploiting dreams—were calculated, designed to prey on hope. Knowing this eased my self-blame, though the financial loss still weighs heavy. I’m rebuilding, living on a tight budget, and relying on my pension more than planned.
Sharing this is agonizing, like admitting a defeat, but it’s worth it if it saves you. In 2022, Brits lost over £1 billion to fraud, and I was one of thousands caught in the net. These scammers are experts at blending in, crafting personas that feel authentic, like imposters wearing a familiar face. If an offer seems too good to be true, or payments keep growing with excuses, pause. Verify the company through official channels, talk to trusted friends, and never send money without absolute certainty. I learned these lessons too late, but by sharing my story, I hope you can stay vigilant and protect your savings from those who hide behind a mask of trust.
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Some of our articles discuss various aspects of victims. This is both about better understanding victims (the science of victimology) and their behaviors and psychology. This helps us to educate victims/survivors about why these crimes happened and to not blame themselves, better develop recovery programs, and to help victims avoid scams in the future. At times this may sound like blaming the victim, but it does not blame scam victims, we are simply explaining the hows and whys of the experience victims have.
These articles, about the Psychology of Scams or Victim Psychology – meaning that all humans have psychological or cognitive characteristics in common that can either be exploited or work against us – help us all to understand the unique challenges victims face before, during, and after scams, fraud, or cybercrimes. These sometimes talk about some of the vulnerabilities the scammers exploit. Victims rarely have control of them or are even aware of them, until something like a scam happens and then they can learn how their mind works and how to overcome these mechanisms.
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